Why do we want to love?
Do you have someone you can tell everything to, someone who will always support and encourage you? When we have such people, life no longer seems so complicated and sad, and problems seem unsolvable. After all, it's easier together. When one person fails, the other half can come to their aid and vice versa. In marriage, people become very close and feel each other's joys and sorrows
Only a life partner can notice the subtlest change and sadness in the eyes of a loved one. He will try to help with sincere interest, because you are a part of him. And when something is wrong with us, we try our best to fix it. The family is a protection and consolation for a person! That is why we, humans, have a desire to start a family: we want to love and be loved, to feel supported and encouraged by our life partner.
The key to family happiness is kindness, frankness, and sensitivity
How to keep love alive?
But not everything is so perfect, you might say. If it was God who created the family (Genesis 2:21-24) and it is so beautiful, why are there so many divorces, family quarrels and misunderstandings? In reality, everything is different, why does it happen?
The main reason for the spoiled relationship is sin. First, it poisoned man's relationship with God by violating the Creator's trust (Genesis 3). Then, the first family was affected by the shortcomings in the relationship. Adam tried to justify his sin by shifting the blame to his wife (Genesis 3:12). When we try to justify our actions, we often blame other people: this is the consequence of sin. When we put our interests above our relationships, the family begins to fall apart. If a man prioritizes his work over his beloved, she will soon feel second or even third best, and begin to feel unnecessary or even like a servant. And when a wife doesn't notice her husband, doesn't respect him, and is busy only with herself, he won't feel like a real man, won't feel that he is needed, and, of course, won't make any effort to make his wife happy. Sin gives rise to selfishness, and it destroys relationships and families. But thanks to God's love, our sins are redeemed by the blood of Christ, and He gives us the power to fight against destructive tendencies and selfishness. If a person opens his heart and entrusts it to God, Jesus will transform him and teach him true love, unconditional and forgiving. This is not love on the terms of you to me, I to you, but a decision to do the best for another without expecting anything for yourself. We can learn three main secrets of happy relationships from the story of the fall:
As a husband and wife become one, they need to accept all the advantages and disadvantages of each other and be faithful. But at the same time, each spouse takes responsibility for striving for the perfection of their character. In general, we humans find change difficult, but we must admit that as we age, it becomes more and more difficult for us to change, which is why some people hesitate to change jobs, others drink for years, and still others will not lose weight. But in this context, thanks to the presence of God in the family, spouses have a serious ally in the struggle for the best version of each other. God is the mediator through whom it is best to resolve all issues, because in this way the change is softer, and the family relationships only get stronger. The characters of the companions improve and they love each other even more when they share responsibility and stand together with God in all life circumstances, treating the other half with love and patience. This is God's plan. In the family, a person is formed as a personality, and a sense of self-esteem develops. With God's help, the principles of true Christianity can be realized in the family, and its values can be passed down from generation to generation.
Appreciate and cherish your family - it is a special gift from God that makes a person better.
