{"id":8983,"date":"2026-04-14T13:32:40","date_gmt":"2026-04-14T11:32:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/advent-ug.org\/answers\/ia-ne-khochu-pereyizhdzhaty-a-druzhyna-khoche-cherez-ditei\/"},"modified":"2026-05-10T00:31:26","modified_gmt":"2026-05-09T22:31:26","slug":"shcho-robyty-iakshcho-druzhyna-khoche-pereikhaty-cherez-ditei-a-ia-ni","status":"publish","type":"answers","link":"https:\/\/advent-ug.org\/en\/answers\/shcho-robyty-iakshcho-druzhyna-khoche-pereikhaty-cherez-ditei-a-ia-ni\/","title":{"rendered":"What should be done if the wife wants to move because of the children, but the husband does not agree?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><b>When a husband and wife view relocation differently\u2014especially when it concerns the children's safety\u2014it is one of the most painful marital conflicts.<\/b> Because in it there is no simple \"right\" and \"wrong.\" There are two people who love their children and see their good in different ways.<\/p>\n<h2>Marriage as union, not competition<\/h2>\n<blockquote><p>\"Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.\" <cite><a href=\"https:\/\/www.biblegateway.com\/passage\/?search=Genesis+2:24&amp;version=UKR\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Gen 2:24<\/a><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>\"One flesh\" means decisions made together, not through one person's victory over the other. If one \"wins\" and the other \"loses,\" both lose. <b>The goal is a decision they can carry together.<\/b><\/p>\n<h2>How to decide practically<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><b>Listen without defensiveness<\/b>: husband\u2014why is the wife afraid? Wife\u2014why does the husband hold on? The real reasons are often deeper than the stated arguments.<\/li>\n<li><b>Separate \"what I want\" from \"what the children need\"<\/b>: sometimes adults' fears are projected onto the children.<\/li>\n<li><b>Outside perspective<\/b>: a pastor, family counselor, wise third party.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<blockquote><p>\"In the multitude of counselors there is victory.\" <cite><a href=\"https:\/\/www.biblegateway.com\/passage\/?search=Proverbs+11:14&amp;version=UKR\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Prov. 11:14<\/a><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2>If a decision must be made urgently<\/h2>\n<p>In a time of crisis, when deadlines are pressing, it is important to remember: <b>a decision made together with prayer is better than the right decision made without God<\/b>. Even if it is not perfect from a logical point of view, it stands firm because two went together.<\/p>\n<h2>Practical meaning<\/h2>\n<p>A difference in vision is neither a tragedy nor a betrayal. It is a call to deeper dialogue. God gave you to one another not to keep affirming the same thing, but so that together you may arrive at a wisdom that neither of you could reach alone.<\/p>\n<p><b>Whether to move or stay is a situational question. But what your marriage will look like after that decision depends on how you make it: together or against each other.<\/b><\/p>","protected":false},"template":"","meta":{"faq_question":"\u0429\u043e \u0440\u043e\u0431\u0438\u0442\u0438, \u044f\u043a\u0449\u043e \u0434\u0440\u0443\u0436\u0438\u043d\u0430 \u0445\u043e\u0447\u0435 \u043f\u0435\u0440\u0435\u0457\u0445\u0430\u0442\u0438 \u0447\u0435\u0440\u0435\u0437 \u0434\u0456\u0442\u0435\u0439, \u0430 \u044f \u043d\u0456?","bible_refs":"\u041c\u0430\u0442\u0432\u0456\u044f 19:6, 1 \u0422\u0438\u043c\u043e\u0444\u0456\u044f 5:8, \u042f\u043a\u043e\u0432\u0430 1:5, \u0413\u0430\u043b\u0430\u0442\u0456\u0432 6:2","answer_lang":"uk","source_question":"\u042f \u043d\u0435 \u0445\u043e\u0447\u0443 \u043f\u0435\u0440\u0435\u0457\u0436\u0434\u0436\u0430\u0442\u0438 \u0430 \u0434\u0440\u0443\u0436\u0438\u043d\u0430 \u0445\u043e\u0447\u0435 \u0447\u0435\u0440\u0435\u0437 \u0434\u0456\u0442\u0435\u0439"},"answer_topic":[143],"class_list":["post-8983","answers","type-answers","status-publish","hentry","answer_topic-church"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/advent-ug.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/answers\/8983","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/advent-ug.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/answers"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/advent-ug.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/answers"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/advent-ug.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8983"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"answer_topic","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/advent-ug.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/answer_topic?post=8983"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}